The Occasional Stubbornness of Trees

How often do we observe something in nature and say, “How like me”? In poetry we call this anthropomorphism—assigning human traits to non-human objects. I tend to believe that we are all cut from the same cloth so when I noticed this tree, and saw how it clung to its summer wardrobe (now dried and brown), though it was the middle of winter, I immediately felt a connection.

The six-foot sapling stood against the wind & cold,
a full crown of leaves, long dead, clattering
like castanets at the end of its spindly arms.

February & still they clung, though all the other trees
along the row had given up their fall attire, relinquishing
their red, orange & yellow fires for Amish grey.

But this one held on, despite the laws of nature
and its own genes’ imperative to slim down in winter
so as not to bear the unwanted weight of snow.

Was it ill? Why did it resist when, by all accounts,
and knowing what is best, it should have let its leaves fall?
But why do I judge this tree at all?

How many times, despite the good advice of friends &
the wise words of family, have I seen this same stubbornness
in me, this same fear of letting go?





The Sincerest Form of Flattery

While it can be argued that our aggressive nature is simply part of a deeply engrained and universal natural instinct, in this poem I consider that nature, like many wild animals, has adapted to our ways in order to survive.


 As if to spite global warming, my garden
has exploded in percussive waves of weeds.

Nothing stops them, not the new heat levels,
not the wild destructive storms. I avert

my eyes as I walk past the yard, knowing if
I cut down one, like the poor Sorcerer’s Apprentice,

two more will leap up in its place.
It seems nature, too, has learned the art

of warfare: offensive action, concentration,
economies of force.

No Access

My father died a few years ago and I wrote this one poem about being with him in hospice and watching him slowly transform and finally disappear. In many ways it was a positive experience—being able to be there for a loved one as the “transition”—but those last two weeks of his life also highlighted the inscrutability of death—how closely you can observe someone going through the dying process and not have a clue as to where they’re going, and finally, where they’ve gone.

I Will Arise and Go Now

We gather beside your bed
glowing dimly in the room’s dark
like a dying campfire
and eke out whatever warmth
we can from the trace
of smoke you’ve become.

The fullness of your face
has receded like a wave
exposing an unfamiliar
landscape of planes and hollows.
Your body, inside its cocoon
of sheets, has shrunk and curled

as if preparing for transformation.
I am writing all this down—
keeping a faithful inventory
of your dying
in hopes it will yield a clue
to where you’re going

since you’ve left
no other information.
In the stifling stillness
of the room
I pick up my phone
to search for a poem.

I find “Lake Isle of Innisfree”
and read it aloud, thinking I see
you stir like a leaf lifting
in the breeze,
thinking that our bodies, too,
are like cabins of wattle and clay—

makeshift shelters
that finally give way,
leaving us homeless
and our loved ones suddenly
displaced, searching
for where there once was a door.


Either View is the Same View

We spend so much time searching, envying, wanting, accumulating. The true gift of age is to recognize, though it seems always belatedly, that the life you’ve been seeking has been there all along.

Either View is the Same View

One mountain closes you in
another opens you up
But this has nothing to do
with the mountain

If you cannot see
from the peak
go back down
to the foothills
Either view is the same view

We spend hours counting
lovers raises corner suites
Forget counting
The coin we seek
is already in our pockets

Does the marigold complain
that it lives with weeds?
Does the cockroach envy
the snowy egret?

The mountain has nothing
to say to you
but there is much to learn
from its wisdom

Big Dreams

Life has a way of taking the wind out of your sails and reducing your arrogance and self-assurance to a quiver. But sometimes, if you’re lucky, it will reveal a surprising truth to you in unexpected ways or places. Here’s a poem.


I Was Supposed to Save the World Today

I was supposed to save the world today
but instead I stopped to watch some children play
with twigs and leaves along the stream.

I was going to write a poem that woke us
from ignorance and fear and stopped all conflict
with a stroke of my impassioned pen,

but dreams of such size seemed suddenly naive
as I watched a snail weigh down a leaf
and glue it to the ground with slime.


The Place We Remember but Cannot Name

Many years ago my daughter woke from a nightmare and I was unable to comfort her. There was something she needed I could not provide. A place, or a state of being perhaps, that she wanted to return to but could not reach. While I cannot say what this place is, I long for it as well. The place where all questions are answered, all worries and threats dissolved. I came close to it once. felt it move through me like a river, connecting me to everything as I stood there transfixed. Joyful. Not desiring a thing but to stay like that forever. Do we all long for this place? Does it exist as anything more than fantasy? Inchoate hope? I don’t know. All I know is that there’s a road I seem to be traveling and it’s leading back to the place I came from. I don’t know where it is, but I want to be there again.


When she woke, crying
And I found her, legs clenched
to chest, back pressed

to wall as if to make
herself invisible
to what scared her,

all she could say is
I want to go home.
You ARE home, I assured her

as I pulled her close.
No … HOME, she said.
I want to go home.

And what else could I do
but make a cradle of my arms
and rock the small taut

ball of her body, wanting
to be the womb
she could never return to

or, further back still,
that other home we never stop
longing for.

Guilt of the Living

When a day is especially nice, like today—October sun, leaves turning, air cool in spots, toasty warm in others—I can’t help but think of loved ones and friends who are no longer here to enjoy these simple, precious things. And if I admit it, I feel a bit guilty to be alive, especially when I’m not fully appreciating the things that are the true gifts of life. And, like most guilty feelings, I immediately displace and project them onto something else. In the case of this poem, back onto the dead.


The Dead Make You Selfish


with their impossible burdens. I want to run away

or throw up my hands beside their graves, unable to convince them

my life is not theirs,


that I can’t bear the weight of their losses.

Instead, I focus on simple things—an apple sweating with cold in the fridge,

a ladder of light climbing toward a window,


the yellow crocus blooming

on the frozen frontier of my lawn—things that carry their own weight,

that are devoid of expectation.


But it’s never enough for the dead.

They won’t stop moaning about what they miss—smell, touch, how air moved

around their bodies.


They won’t hear of my grief—

of my life being out of control—disturbing my sleep with their entreaties,

badgering me with their hunger.


As if there were something I could do,

being here on this side when they’re on the other—as if living without them

weren’t punishment enough.